Intimacy what is it? A greater question would be what is it in our relationships? I think men are special, such sexual being and we sometime in our youth never get to truly understand what true intimacy is all about. Everything that is intimate in our relationships usual cumulates to sex. I think this is the most destructive force in our pursuit of happiness. We have yet to learn love is not sex entirely. We do not know our partners, we know their bodies but we never really take the time to dig deeper to know their souls. We can not lay together without having sex.
“Only a fool does the same thing over and over and expects a different result”. How true is that? We do the same things from relationship to relationship never truly learning from our mistakes. We think maybe if I turn him out he will stay here or if I do all those nasty things we will stay together. In the end all the sexing in the world does not keep someone. A friend told me , “ anyone can get a man’s bed but not everyone can get in his head”. This saying has stuck with me through the years and in my pursuits I have always tried to get to know a brother and all his deep thoughts. If you can get in his head then his heart is soon to be conquered getting in the pants is the easy part.
This whole true in all type of relationships that is why when the storms of life comes most of our relationship sinks because it was never built on anything that would last it was built on superficial lust and fleshy gratification.
When we have our fill of the sex most of us really do not have too much to say to one another. That is where true intimacy comes in. So I laid in bed thinking about the mistakes I’ve made in the pass and it came down to this word of intimacy. I never really took the time to dig deep into someone. To find out all the dark places in them and to map their being with the pens of desire to know them. To truly dig through the closet of the mind to know who this person is and once was. Do not get me wrong sex is great but when you get to know someone it really makes the climax so much better. If we are to build anything that is going to stand the test of time we need to know what materials we have do what we need to spend time inspecting everything. So my charge today is be more intimate in my love life and my friendships. So when I do find that special someone he would be more than just a lover he would be my best friend. Someone who knows all my deep dark places and someone who is not afraid to look there and vice versa.
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Dayum yo...I'M FEELIN THIS POST!!!!!
You always have an uncompromised word for the Blog world. If ever there was a literary Picasso, you would be he. I am led to believe that it is your job to artictulate my inner most thoughts. This post can partially explain why I am single. We are looking at the wrong things and calling it LOVE. I am glad that we are both similarly charged.
nice post stone....wow
This post says a mouthful....speak on hun, speak on!
*church index figure waving in air* "PREACH child, PREACH!"
Why did it feel like when I was reading your post, a moment of time just stood still, and everything just started to make sense. I totally agree with what you said. I honor this moment, thank you!
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This I dig - I DIG!!!
Wow man, I've been trying to find the words to write a post similar to this but I simply couldn't have said what you did any better. I think we are all seeking the same thing but don't quite know how to get there. Each of us must take a different road leading to the same place. I guess we must be patient with those who have gotten lost along the way. Be blessed.
Sorry I'm late, I have a good excuse I promise. This post is so fab...I really feel you, really. You're so on !!
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